Orphan Care 101

  • Birth Order - consider the ages of your children (many families have found that fostering a child younger than your youngest biological child works best in most family dynamics).
  • Decide as a family what gender and age best fit your family dynamics (baby, toddler, school age, teen). Remember you are in control of who comes into your home.
  • Be patient with healing. It just takes time.
  • Understand all children in foster care have special needs at some level due to medical, social, emotional, or neglect issues...they need love and stability.
  • Understand what special needs you are open to and can handle.
  • Don't be afraid to say yes, children are more than written history.
  • Don't be afraid to say no, when the placement would be more than your family can commit to in this season.
  • Remember, social workers have an incredibly hard job, they need your patience too.
  • You don't need to rely on your social worker for everything. Be proactive about the child's needs, just remember to email your social worker so they have a record.
  • Once a child comes into your home, give it 6 weeks before you make any decisions.
  • Commit to a support group...community is the key to flourishing in foster care.